It's been rumored that Valentine's Day has one of the highest suicide rates out of any day in the year. Truth is, it doesn't. While over the course in Canada in 2011, there were 3738 reported suicides, there was no more suicides on Valentine's Day than there were on other days.
In fact, the number of suicides in Canada has dropped from the previously reported numbers. While we still lost many lives, knowing that 60+ people more than before decided to not take their lives, shows that we are doing something different, something helpful in our communities. We need to keep improving to save as many lives as we possibly can.
So why do people assume that Valentine's Day shows more suicides than others?
Mainly because society in general, movies, books, etc, have said time & time again that Valentine's Day are for those in relationships, lovers, partners, husbands & wives, telling someone who means the world to you how you truly feel, and showering that person with gifts, adoration, and love.
Basically saying, that if you are single on Valentine's Day, you should be feeling:
Depressed - "No one wants to be with me"
Anxious - "Why can't I keep a boyfriend/girlfriend? What's WRONG with me?"
Stressed - "I'm NEVER going to get married/have kids/buy a house this way!"
Sad - "I wish I had said yes to that person who asked me out last week..."
Suicidal - "If there's no one who loves me, why am I ever bothering with life"
That you should be:
Overeating - "Hellooooooo tub of Ben & Jerry's ice cream.....BFF's? Okay"
Watching sad movies - "I can't believe Allie doesn't remember Noah!"
Going to single's parties - "All dressed up to meet people I don't want to meet"
Burning your ex's photos - "You wasted so many years of my life!!!!"
But here's the thing:
You don't need to be any of these things!
Valentine's Day is for some people, and for others, it's not. It's okay to be single, not to have a date, not to get all caught up in the holiday.
Instead of feeding into the above "what you're supposed to feel" emotions, let's make a list of things you love about yourself.
I love myself because ______________________________.
I love this about my mind ___________________________.
I love this about my appearance ______________________.
I love this about my life _____________________________.
I love this about where I live _________________________.
I love that I can do this _____________________________.
I love to do this every day ___________________________.
Change your thoughts, and you'll change your world.
Valentine's Day shouldn't be anything that causes you anxiety, stress or depression, but if it does, and you need someone to talk to, we are ALWAYS here to listen.
Just give us a call at 613-238-3311
Remember to love yourself this Valentine's Day!